No, I didn't take him out of yet another preschool. He wasn't kicked out for his insanely horrible behavior. He was just moved to another classroom.
About a week ago, Ethan had another one of his "days." These days are far and few between, but when they happen, it can only be described as a chaotic disaster. He becomes completely irrevocably uncontrollable. He hits and kicks and screams and all sort of other things. And the first time it happened, they made the mistake of telling me in front of him that they cannot restrain him, even if he tries to run out the door. Naturally, being Ethan, he doesn't forget a thing, so he was running for the door.
We don't know what triggers these episodes. Everything can start perfectly normal, but a tiny thing like not being able to have a book, can set him off. Something he can manage on most days becomes impossible. There's no talking to him. There's no reasoning. He just goes a little crazy and I honestly believe he loses control of himself. When it happened, they called me to ask me to come get him because no one could get through to him and he was becoming a danger to himself and everyone else. I hate these days.
So as I've racked my brain endlessly, all I can come up with is that his unwillingness to go to bed and his propensity for waking early catches up to him every 3 to 4 months. I have no solution.
It doesn't help that there have been a lot of changes at school. His favorite teacher moved away, so he got another teacher. Unfortunately, he didn't connect well with her (she's great, but a little abrasive). He doesn't mesh well with the other teacher already (she, too, is great, but easily overwhelmed). Ethan's quite good and finding that one spot, that one button, that he can push. And he pushes. He's very persistent and overwhelming to even the calmest people when he wants to be.
So they did what they thought was best and let him go to the other preschool classroom. He fell in love with both teachers over there. He quickly attaches to certain people and always has. He'll hug a stranger without hesitation and loves to touch. He loves to be held. He loves to hold hands. He doesn't understand personal space. He's kind and sweet and so adorably loving that when he attaches, people instantly become enamored with him. He listens to these people and wants to make them happy.
And so, after observing him and his interactions, they have if the move could be permanent. I was hesitant because this classroom, while still a preschool, has younger kids in it. But this school meets children's intellectuality on an individual basis. They observe and encourage and help them grow and explore at their potential. And while most "gifted" kids gravitate toward older kids, my son has always gravitated toward younger kids. He often defies logic. So I said yes, let's move him, because I want what is best for him. I want him to enjoy preschool and the time he has left before entering the world of public education where the expectations will change and where he will be required to sit and do worksheets. They don't do worksheets here. It's all hands-on learning.
So far, things are going well. He seems to be fitting in nicely. And the teachers seem to enjoy him. They're aware of his strengths and weaknesses and the issues they may encounter. They are all on the same page and are working toward one common goal: to help Ethan learn to handle his emotions better while giving him the freedom to learn and explore in his own way. They are amazed by some of the things he does and says, but I am often amazed by him as well. And Ethan is a rather amazing child. Despite all that high energy and overwhelming presence, he really is a very loveable child and has a history of becoming a "favorite" quickly. Sometimes I wonder if he does it on purpose with the knowledge that it'll help make up for his infrequent rages. But then, I know that's giving him just a bit too much credit.